Have you lost your confidence to take risks? In every aspect of your life, there will people who get things you’re ‘supposed’ to have. Yet they don’t seem to have more talent than you do. Believe me, I work in the filming industry and see examples of this on a weekly basis. You work hard and spend a lot of time nurturing your dream – then someone else pops up, says the ‘right’ words and viola! They’ve got what should belong to you.
Confidence to take risks
Confidence to take risks with your career
Before I was married and had kids I took many risks in my life.
I suppose I had nothing to lose – no one wanting anything from me or depending on me to live ‘sanely’.
I got my dream job as a radio announcer by taking a risk. I walked into the radio station and told the receptionist that I was there to talk to someone about a job as an announcer. She told me it didn’t happen like that (as if I didn’t know).
However, the seed was planted and I didn’t let it go. I left a convincing CV and letter. I made a few follow-up calls and one thing led to another.
Three months later I was announcer-in-training and later ended up with my own daily radio show. I knew I had the job the day I was called in for an interview and made one of the panel members weep with laughter. And all this I achieved broke. I begged the lift to the radio station the first time I went there, and wrangled the phone calls because I couldn’t even afford to pay for the phone calls.
Have you wanted to take a risk with your career for ages? Do you want to ask for a promotion? A raise? Do you want to start your own business? What’s stopping you? Have you got the confidence to take that risk? Consider ‘the worst that can happen’. Now could you take that risk?
Confidence to take risks with your quality of life
I started acting professionally because I walked up to the local director and said I wanted to try out for his upcoming play (I didn’t even know he had an upcoming play).
After the audition he gave me a part with two lines. I was happy with this, but during the nightly rehearsals, the main actress (the director’s cousin) kept messing up her lines. She couldn’t take direction easily. After a while – in frustration (or misguided ignorance) – I shouted out her line in exactly the way the director wanted. He asked me to go up on stage and perform her part – ‘just for tonight’. One thing led to another, as they say, and the next day I had the lead role! Years later I was playing lead roles in the best theatre in the country!
Have you been thinking of taking up a hobby? Have you always wanted to try something, but think you’re not good enough for it? Do you want a change in your life but can’t build up the courage to go get it? Is this even a risk? Close your eyes for a moment and think about how you’d feel on the day you’ve accomplished that dream. What’s stopping you from rigging up that confidence to take risks with your quality of life?
Confidence to take risks with relationships
I took a risk on my marriage when I broke up with my fiancé in order to date the man who’s now my husband. Now, 16 years later, we’re blissfully, happily married.
(Note: I’m not telling you to break up with your loved one just on a whim. I didn’t take this particular risk on a whim). How about you? Have you been living alone or in a loveless relationship? Have you been admiring someone from afar for years without doing anything about it? What will it mean to you to have that relationship you’ve always wanted? If being with that person is worth the risk, why aren’t you confident enough to take it?
All the best and most important things which happened to be in my life have come about through the risks I took.
Now I’ve got kids, a mortgage and a husband – I never take risks any more. I’ve become safe. I’ve become one of those people who always stand aside to see other people get the very thing I wanted.
I’ve buried the risk-taking part of me because I want to stay safe for my kids and because I’ve lost that part of me from dis-use.
Not any more!
Today I’m reviving the risk-taking side of me. This doesn’t mean I’m going to sky-dive or jump from a moving car It means I’m going to recapture the side of me that went out and asked for what it wanted. So how about you? What do you resolve to do today to recapture that risk-taking person you used to be? Do you have the confidence to take risks?