Are you caught in a self-doubt trap? Are you sitting in your chair right now watching you life spiral out of your control?
The story is told of how trappers cruelly caught monkeys in the forest. They would put a piece of fruit in a small-mouthed jar and tie it to a tree. It was just a simple thing really. Just get a clear jar with a small enough opening for the monkey to be able to fit his paw in. Cut a piece of fruit – any fruit monkeys are known to eat, place it into the jar and tie the jar to a tree. The trappers would then leave the jar in the forest overnight.
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Y’all know I always harper on about building self confidence. Mainly, I like to talk about how confidence has nothing to do with your past. You can reap it whether your past was a fertile ground for it to grow in or not.
I know my book, Sunday’s Child (available in all e-formats) proves that without me having to rehash it all here. The good news is that Sunday’s Child is now out as an audio book. If you haven’t got time to read it, you can always listen to it in your car. My publishers have also said that it will be out in hard copy by December.
I just thought I’d share the great news with you! My confidence-building boost for you this week is:
If a poor, beaten girl from a third world country (who often had no shoes to wear on her feet and no food to eat) can do this, then so can you! Get up and walk all over that bile of a thing that’s holding you down!
I also have a new interview out at Wake Up To Your True Identity. See you soon and have a great week!
PS. I do have material to write – actually 🙂 I’ve just chosen not to write anything else this week.
The words ‘self-confidence’ and ‘negativity’ should probably never be used together, especially if you’re using the latter to build the former. We’ve dealt with articles (here on How To Build Confidence) about letting go of your past and saw that the choice of whether your past will break or make you lies solely with you (click on link to read the article). What then, does negativity have to do with self-confidence? Doesn’t negativity break down self-confidence? Doesn’t it make people feel bad about themselves and trigger self-doubt and lack-of motivation? How in the world can negativity help build your self-confidence?
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Body confidence is something anyone can build, regardless of their body’s shape, size or weight. We all know short people, big people, tall people, skinny people, disabled people etc., who’re equally confident about their bodies. We also know another group of the aforementioned list who’re lacking in body confidence.
But what is it that makes one person less or more body confident than the other person? It’s certainly not their body shape or size, or there would never be successful people who’re unattractive, right? Right! It must be something else then. Regardless of what you think of your body there has to be (at least) one great thing about it – your legs, your hair, your voice, your dimples… the list is enormous. Look at the picture below. I took this picture of a tiny, white water lily at the very end of its growing season. The lily itself was not a great – it was one of the puniest I’ve ever seen. However, taken against the background of the shabby, unimpressive leaves, the lily seems a perfect specimen!
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You know the difference between dunno and donut, right? Sure, you do! You know what a dunno is. You’ve had it loads of times! And you also know what a d0nut is. (We spell it ‘doughnut’. However, I’m using the US version in my post title because it’s shorter for my url). A doughnut is a hole in the middle with sweet-stuff round the edges. A dunno is a hole in the middle with no-stuff around it.
My 11-year old daughter asked me yesterday what I wanted for Christmas. I said, ‘Dunno’.
‘A doughnut!’ she said. ‘Why do you want a doughnut?’
‘No,’ I replied. ‘Not a doughnut. I don’t know‘
‘Well, if you don’t know,’ she said, ‘You won’t get anything. At least a doughnut is something.’
Out of the mouths of babes….
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Have you lost your confidence to take risks? In every aspect of your life, there will people who get things you’re ‘supposed’ to have. Yet they don’t seem to have more talent than you do. Believe me, I work in the filming industry and see examples of this on a weekly basis. You work hard and spend a lot of time nurturing your dream – then someone else pops up, says the ‘right’ words and viola! They’ve got what should belong to you.
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‘How to get confidence’ is a guest post by Dennis Do
“That’s One Small Step For a Man”
Neil Armstrong is the fearless man who quoted this headline. He was the first man to travel out of space. This is an action that seems unreal and imaginary for some of us. So what if I told you to suit up, and travel to the moon tomorrow? Would you be able to take that ‘one giant leap for mankind’?
Unfortunately, many people are given advice that are too general. Growing up, I was never talkative or outgoing. I had problems when it came to socializing with others. I was sick of who I was, and just wanted to become the opposite of me. I wanted good friends, people who thought that I was charismatic, and just a friendly person all-round. But the most general tip people gave me was: “Just talk to people” or “Be more confident then!”
The advice was right on the money. Surely, it would change me into who I’d love to become. The problem isn’t that it was wrong, but that was just too general. That’s just like me telling you to go to outer space without any prior training—which by the way starts tomorrow at 6 AM. Get suited up!
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