It takes a lot of self confidence and self esteem to step up and keep stepping up when life gets rough. Like the stairs below, it’s difficult to see the very top step when we’re viewing it from the bottom. Sometimes the top becomes clearer when someone points it out. We then become more confident and are able to get there because we can see that glimmer of hope.  In this case, the top of the steps in the picture below is beside the glimmer of light you can see near the the tree on the right. Now I’ve raised your confidence that the top is in view, you can finally see it. You’re more comfortable now you know where it is. Your self-esteem about being able to climb there is growing by the minute.

step to the top with confidence

The first step up

The first thing about building self-confidence  is to take that first step. Are you sick of your job? Do you want to fall in love? Do you want to save your marriage? If you look at the above picture again you’ll see that the first step is the closest to you. You have to be willing to take that one. Don’t dream of becoming the manager if you haven’t done what’s necessary to climb all the rounds. Don’t wish you could have a blissful relationship without first having the self-esteem to stick it out when times are hard.

Step up with confidence

If you ask any guru how to be confident or how to build your self-esteem, they will tell you to do the very things that are difficult for you. A child learns patience by waiting for things. We’re not born with patience. We learn it. It’s the same with confidence and personal development. We learn by doing.

Steps to succeed with confidence

Take that first step.

Keep climbing.

Take others with you. I showed you where the top of the stairs was. Do that for others because it helps you focus on it too.

When you get to the middle, look back to see how many you’ve conquered. Looking back builds self-esteem because it shows you the strength you’ve already put in. 

Look forward too, because it’s now easier to see the top and this keeps you focused.

Don’t be afraid to take a breather if you need it. But keep going.

Make sure you step up with someone else. Confidence is sweeter in company. It’s hard to be confident on your own.

Don’t forget that self-esteem is learning not getting. Savour your climb so you can help others step up with confidence too.

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