How to build confidence in your kids today will briefly discuss a couple of things you can do today to help them grow confident and self-assured. Not many parents have a lot of time on their hands, but the thing about being a parent is that you’re obliged to make time for the kids you’ve been given charge of. You desperately wanted them. You love them and made a fuss of them when they were babies – and when they were little. Now they’re getting up and getting themselves dressed. You’re rushing out to work and hardly even looked at what they were wearing today. Why the rush?
Why are you rushing out without seeing them? You’re going to work to put food on the table and a home above their heads – that’s right. You’re rushing around to make their lives more comfortable. Please stop and think for a moment about how you can make their lives more fulfilling.
do something with your kids today
What was your kid wearing on his/her feet this morning? What hair style did they have? Are you involved? Sure, they need freedom, but freedom has to come with responsibility. Have you nurtured them enough to build up to the responsibility they think they have?
In order to build confidence in your kids you have to show them that ultimately, they mean the world to you. If you haven’t got the time to be hands-on, at least pick one thing that you will always do with them. Do you come home early on Tuesdays? Do dinner with your kid. Show him/her how to make the pasta-bake they love so much. Knowledge increases confidence. Your child will grow in confidence as they grow in knowledge (and this is not just academic knowledge).
Of course, you love your children! But do you show it? When was the last time you told them you loved them? You pack the lunch, wash and iron the clothes and (maybe) clean their room. These all show your love, but have you said it recently? When was the last time you had any close,physical contact with your older kids? Have you hugged them today?
Showing your love builds confidence in your kids because it prepares them for the difficult school day ahead. They have to deal with kids who hate and maybe, bully them. They have to be able to stand their ground and not allow all the negative, external influences to drag them down. They have to know how special they are because if they don’t, it’ll be easy to believe the bullies’ versions of who they are and what they’re worth. Your love (and your constant assurance of this love) will make them confident enough to walk away with their heads held high.
Do build up your child today
What a beautiful post! I remember when my daughter was little I used to give her a “mommy kiss” before she went to school. A mommy kiss is when you put your lipstick on and kiss her hand. All day long, if she needed a lift she would look at her hand. She would tell me stories of who bullied her, or a teacher bothering her during the day and felt better when she seen her “mommy kiss.”
We need to build confidence with our children. I find the best way is to encourage them when they are interested in something. When my daughter was in High School, she decided to become a cheerleader. Now this was totally against my school of thought. I seen it as demeaning because they would “serve” the boys playing football. But I went to every game, even in the freezing cold to cheer her on.
That is what a parent does. Those moments are never forgotten.
Thanks for the inspiring post,
Donna
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Thank you, Donna. I love the idea of a mommy kiss. When I leave any lipstick on my daughter’s forehead, she wipes it off. 🙂
I love the idea of our kids having something with them all day to remind them of how much we love them and care about them. School is very stressful – and they could feel very much alone out there.
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Great Post! I think alot of kids lack confidence that their parents could provide. I think the best part is showing your love..this is done in alot more ways then hugs and kisses but showing them right from wrong and being there in good times as well as the bad.
My wife does the mommy kiss, my daughter Sophia loves it. Thanks for sharing
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You’re right, CK. One of the most important things in nurturing your kids properly is teaching them right from wrong. This way they’ll be confident enough to decline when their peers are trying to steer them in the wrong way. If they’re armed with the knowledge, they’ll be more confident to say no.
There are a lot of things in today’s schools and children that can be very hard and stressful for children these days. Peer pressure and bullying are at an all time high. Learning to build with your kids can help a lot! Thanks for sharing!