Body confidence is not that hard to achieve. A lot of young people think that body confidence is the enjoyment we get from people admiring how perfect we are. They think that in order to be body confident, you have to have perfect teeth, smooth skin, be a perfect size 10 and have the best combination of what ever hair-type is the fad at any given time. (I worked with teenagers for 10 years). We see how silly this idea is when we look at celebrities who go to extreme measures to ‘have the perfect body’.
Aren’t they already being held in esteem by others? Aren’t they revered and longed for? Aren’t their bodies the ones we’re supposed to strive for? Yet they’re starving themselves and going under painful procedures to maintain that apparent ‘perfect body’. Now, if they aren’t body confident with all the seeming ‘perfection’ they strive for, what really does give a person body confidence?
Confidence building may be tough for people like us who’ve had difficult starts in life. However, like tulips, if we were planted in a shady spot, we just have to grow taller to reach where the sunlight IS available. I know this because I had to. And if I could build confidence, anyone can. Here’s your confidence building booster for today. If you have anything to add please tell us in the comment box below.
I went to a shop recently to get some material to make a bed spread. (I’m into interior design and love to make stuff for our home). A little, old, Chinese woman was also in there shopping. She was probably 5 foot tall and weighed about 100 pounds. This was what called my attention to her in the first place. As some of you know, I’m almost 6 foot tall.
What does confidence and forgiveness have in common? At first glance they seem to be miles apart, but if you look closely you’ll find that forgiveness has a large part to play where your confidence is concerned. A lot of people live their lives in the shadow of what happened in their childhoods, in their past, with their exes, with their schoolmates etc.
They can’t perform to the best of their abilities because they can still remember what their parents didn’t do to help them thrive. They can still remember the bullies at school and how they told them they would amount to nothing: they were too fat or too unattractive to achieve their goals – too short to amount to anything, or too tall to be accepted by their more ‘normal’ peers.
Not forgiving holds you captive to all the thoughts associated with feelings you had while being bullied. See how thoughts and feelings collide to strip you of confidence. The longer you hold onto the things ‘they’ did to make you feel useless and the things they said you couldn’t do, is the longer you’re stuck unable to do them. Free yourself from this captivity of inactivity by deciding to forgive. Once you do this you can make your own thoughts, your own goals, your own plans on how to live your life by your terms – not by the way others have designed for you.
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Celebs With Body Confidence will show you the celebrities who are confident in their own skins. These celebrities will surprise you because they’re not the stick-thin ones most teenagers aspire to be like. They’re real women with real bodies. This just goes to show that body confidence has nothing to do with being thin. Body confidence is accepting who you are and what you look like. If you’d like some tips on building body confidence, go to the linked page.
According to Cosmopolitan, ‘The average American woman is 5 feet 4 inches tall and weighs 140 pounds, while the average American model is 5 feet 11 inches tall and weighs 117 pounds — making her thinner than 98 percent of American women. So mathematically, it would be pointless to judge your body in terms of someone you have only a 2 percent genetic possibility of looking like.’ I think that this data is representative of most countries. Women in the UK certainly fit into this category. The topic of body confidence is well-debated internationally.
Where do feelings come from? This is a very important question to ask yourself because if you knew where your feeling of low self confidence is coming from, you’ll be able to address it and fix it!
Do feelings appear from the mind? Are they born of what people say to us? Are they a result of our past? Our upbringing? Are feelings there because they appear in the night in our dreams? Where do you think feelings come from? Particularly, where does your feeling low self confidence come from?
Feelings are not the start of our emotions. Thoughts are. We have a thought, we dwell on it, we allow ourself to believe it, then we start ‘feeling’ it. Your feelings of low confidence did not appear in your life and mind overnight. It crept in there from a little thought that seeded, then grew, then matured in your mind.
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It takes a lot of self confidence and self esteem to step up and keep stepping up when life gets rough. Like the stairs below, it’s difficult to see the very top step when we’re viewing it from the bottom. Sometimes the top becomes clearer when someone points it out. We then become more confident and are able to get there because we can see that glimmer of hope.
In this case, the top of the steps in the picture below is beside the glimmer of light you can see near the the tree on the right. Now I’ve raised your confidence that the top is in view, you can finally see it. You’re more comfortable now you know where it is. Your self-esteem about being able to climb there is growing by the minute.
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‘Self-confidence in you’ is a short post to encourage you today and remind you of your value. Recently I read this story which I want to share with you (I’ll paraphrase the story). A guy was giving a talk about personal development, but before he started, he pulled a $20 note from his pocket and asked for a show of hands of all the people who wanted it. Of course, a flurry of hands went up.
He said that he was going to give the note to one person in the audience but first he wanted to try something. He scrumpled the note between his hands, then squashed it as hard as he could between his two palms. He held the note up and again asked the question. Not put off by the rumpled appearance of the note, hands went up yet again.
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