Will it break or make you asks a simple question, but it’s a principal that affects all aspects of your life when it comes to building confidence. It’s also a question that’s most important when making practical, life-changing decisions while things are tough in your life. After all, isn’t it during the tough times that we make the crucial decisions about the direction we want our lives to take? Yes, will it make or break you?
Will it break or make you?
Do you know how muscles get bigger? Of course, it’s by hard training and hours of body-breaking work. However, do you know what actually happens to the muscle cells to get them bigger? When you train and work the muscles past their limit the cells rip a little. The body, in a bid to ‘re-make’ or repair itself, grows a bit of extra tissue around the tear or scar. This extra scar tissue makes that muscle bigger. The next time you break that cell with hard graft in the gym it will repair itself again – with even more tissue. The result? Bigger muscles!
Breaking the muscle tissue with hard graft makes it stronger. It can’t become stronger unless it breaks.
Hard times will break you, unless you use them to ‘make’ you
Have you got something in your life right now which is breaking you down, ripping you up bit by bit? Is it your work, your friends, your spouse? Is it so bad that each time you have to face it you feel your confidence is dipping lower and lower?
Well, here’s a brand new perspective! This is the very thing – the thing breaking you – that’s in your life to make you stronger. Yes, it is! None of us has ever thought we could build our character or personality by never having to face turmoil or hardship. Yet, why do we try to run away from challenges and hardship instead of trying to face them head on. After all, isn’t the ‘facing up’ the way to ‘building up’? Isn’t the tearing which leads to repairing?
‘Breaking down’ is adding value
Gold, in its raw state is ugly and unremarkable. It has to go through blazing heat to burn out the impurities and come out on the other side pure.
Diamonds in their raw state are like dull, old, discarded hard plastic. They have to be cut and broken down in order to be made into something beautiful.
Your hardship will make you
…that is, if you don’t allow it to break you. Muscles tear to repair. So will you. So look at that hardship you’re facing right now. Don’t turn away, and don’t try to run from it. Jump on it and ride it. It’s actually doing you a favour because in the long run, it’s the very thing you’ll refer to as your foundation – your building block. And just when you’re about to feel completely broken, this is the point at which you’re getting ready to repair. Don’t give up then because this is the time to hang in there for all you’re worth. How else will you enjoy the strength which is wash over your life?
Look that hardship in the face, and stare it down. No on will leave that rut until one of you gets taken down. It’s either you or that obstacle. Who’s it gonna be, mate?
What other tips can you share in regard to facing up to your hardship? How do you do it?