It takes a lot of self confidence and self esteem to step up and keep stepping up when life gets rough. Like the stairs below, it’s difficult to see the very top step when we’re viewing it from the bottom. Sometimes the top becomes clearer when someone points it out. We then become more confident and are able to get there because we can see that glimmer of hope.  

In this case, the top of the steps in the picture below is beside the glimmer of light you can see near the the tree on the right. Now I’ve raised your confidence that the top is in view, you can finally see it. You’re more comfortable now you know where it is. Your self-esteem about being able to climb there is growing by the minute. 



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The first step up

The first thing about building self-confidence  is to take that first step. Are you sick of your job? Do you want to fall in love? Do you want to save your marriage? If you look at the above picture again you’ll see that the first step is the closest to you. You have to be willing to take that one. Don’t dream of becoming the manager if you haven’t done what’s necessary to climb all the rounds. Don’t wish you could have a blissful relationship without first having the self-esteem to stick it out when times are hard.

Step up with confidence

If you ask any guru how to be confident or how to build your self-esteem, they will tell you to do the very things that are difficult for you. A child learns patience by waiting for things. We’re not born with patience. We learn it. It’s the same with confidence and personal development. We learn by doing.

Steps to succeed with confidence

Take that first step.

Keep climbing.

Take others with you. I showed you where the top of the stairs was. Do that for others because it helps you focus on it too.

When you get to the middle, look back to see how many you’ve conquered. Looking back builds self-esteem because it shows you the strength you’ve already put in. 

Look forward too, because it’s now easier to see the top and this keeps you focused.

Don’t be afraid to take a breather if you need it. But keep going.

Make sure you step up with someone else. Confidence is sweeter in company. It’s hard to be confident on your own.

Don’t forget that self-esteem is learning not getting. Savour your climb so you can help others step up with confidence too.

As always, thanks for visiting and commenting. Please share this building self-confidence article on your social networking sites and with those who need it today. If you have any other confidence building tips, why not share them in the comment box below. Thank you.

34 Responses to “Step Up With Confidence”

  1. Excellent article – and you are so right, it all begins with that first step. All the preparation in the world won’t get you any closer to creating the life you really want if you don’t take that first step. Thanks, look forward to reading more!
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  2. Hiten says:

    Hi Anne,

    Wonderful post, indeed!

    I loved the way you explained building confidence through comparing the process to the steps on stairs. One thing struck me from your post. As you said, we can see the first step. Sure, the last step is further away. However, we can still see the first step! Let’s get onto the first step and let the journey up begin.

    Thank you.
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    • Anne says:

      Exactly, Hiten. The first step is there, just waiting for us to take it. Sometimes the magnitude of the job can really turn us off doing it. However, just concentrating on what I have to do today – how to begin – is very helpful when you feel overwhelmed.
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  3. mary combs says:

    Outstanding article and you are so accurate; it all initiates with that first step. All the homework in the world won’t get you any closer to making the life you really want if you do not take that first step. Thanks look onward to reading further.

  4. Anne says:

    Thanks for stopping by, Mary and I appreciate your input into the post. I post weekly articles, so come by again to read and enjoy. Please let me know if there’s anything in particular you’re looking for.

  5. Tom says:

    Building confidence is definitely a lifelong endeavor and you are so right, it does start with that first step. The willingness to be uncomfortable and take that first step is essential. Thanks for your article. I appreciate your words.
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    • Anne says:

      Hi Tom, thanks for your input. I’m so glad you said that word, uncomfortable. The first step can indeed be uncomfortable. In fact, in most cases it is. The thing to note is that the discomfort gets easier as the steps progress. Thanks for adding to the discussion.

  6. Anne,

    I love the way you mention to take the first step. That all it takes…one step! After that it becomes so easy. I work with people with low self esteem. When one of them takes the first step, it is so exciting to me because I know that they are on the beginning of their road.
    On the other hand, if a client is with me a while and doesn’t want to take that step, it is difficult, but I tell she/he that I can’t work with them because they are not even trying. Sometimes they surprise me and come back saying they worked on it. Oh boy what a great moment and then we continue working.

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    • Anne says:

      Thank you for sharing this, Donna. That’s very brave of you to be so upfront with your clients. Not all coaches are.
      The thing is, the first step is only difficult until we take it. Sometimes the anticipation is harder than the real thing.

  7. Well your regular article posting and hard work appreciable as i know posting regularly with this kind of perfection is not an easy thing.

    Hats off.
    i’m lovin it.

  8. John peter says:

    Really nice post. . . I really inspired from this post
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  9. Andy Lewis says:

    Most lovable article i read today , because it all about confidence . I remember that day of my life when i was gone interview for the first time . Only the thing confidence had with me to pass that interview .Well said Anne, that every thing start with first step with confidence.Love read this kind of article.

  10. Absolutely true Anne!

    Building self-confidence isn’t an overnight job, and you need to work on it by going slow and taking small steps, just as you mentioned about the staircase. I guess when you do that, you can never really go wrong. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing. 🙂
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  11. Anastasius says:

    wonderfull share from, thanx for share i am very love your way ^^
    but i have question, how to motivate our family especially my sister to be more confidence.
    My sister never confidence but i think she can do better than anybody. thanx for share

    • Anne says:

      HI Anastasius, please feel free to share this blog with your sister. All we do here is build confidence, so there are lots of articles to read and bookmark. I write about it from all aspects and I’m sure she’ll find many posts of value here.

  12. kizi says:

    You’ve written nice post, I am gonna bookmark this page, thanks for info. I actually appreciate your own position and I will be sure to come back here.

  13. Wonderful post! I like how you said, “it’s difficult to see the very top step when we’re viewing it from the bottom.” That is so true! It’s always just all a matter of how we look at things & if we’re willing to take the plunge & go for it! Thanks for sharing this!
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    • Anne says:

      Thanks for your input, JoLynn. And yes, taking the plunge can be difficult, but if we’re looking at it from a positive angle this makes it much easier to do.

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  15. MensAffairs says:

    We can take small action steps to build up our confidence. The first step is always the hardest. Thank you for your article. I will bookmark this blog so much useful information.
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  16. Areesh Khan from bmw says:

    Build self Confidence is a very tough task for a person who have a very silent behavior. My Girl Friend is one of them she is a very hesitating person. When i was first meat her she was feeling very uncomfortable after 20 minutes she starts crying. 🙂 I do very work hard to develop confidence in her. It 2 years passed she is still with me and very are going to married. But Still she feel very Uncomfortable to talk with strangers. 🙂

  17. I think confidence building is an amazing task. It can take hard work, and the person has to want to do it. But it can be done. I wish good luck to anyone going through this!

  18. DRSNOOZE says:

    You know what Miss Anne, I love all your articles. Building confidence is not easy for a person who’s lack of attitude to pursue it. Thank you so much for sharing to us your insights about life. Take care always.

  19. Great post, nothing is easy in this world, but if you believe in your self and work hard, you can achieve whatever you want.

  20. Bilal Akbar says:

    Great post and nice explanation. No doubt self confidence is the main factor to succeed in any field of life.

  21. Nadeem Ahmad from ainol says:

    Hi , very well written and i believe that confidence i the key to success and a you mentioned that its just one step only a step then every thing becomes easy for you Good luck!!

  22. friv says:

    I am glad to catch idea from your article. It has information I have been searching for a long time. Thanks so much

  23. Hi Anne..
    Nice reading your blog and idea, but some times I feel unconfident for some cases maybe this is my natural weakness.
    Any way great ideas.
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